Tipping: A reward for good service, or an OBLIGATION? Hmmmm….


Why do we tip..because we are FORCED to? Is tipping a reward for good service or just automatically assumed? Why are restaurant owners allowed to pay their servers way below minimum wage? In some states the average is $2.13 an hour, BUT…is it my responsibility to make up the difference and become financially responsible for someone who asks me what I want to eat or drink, and then brings it to me? Why isn’t the tip….

just automatically added to the menu price? (I know sometimes it is when there are parties of 8 or more). I know restaurant owners will say that is because people will stop coming to their establishment if the prices are sky high…but therein lies is the catch 22.

I think the thing that gets me most about knowing that my server gets paid $2.13 an hour is that there is an OBLIGATION to tip. You are thought to be a rude / bad person if you don’t tip. I don’t understand why it’s my job to make sure a server has enough money to live. They have a job. It should be the restaurant’s responsibility to pay their employees, right? Not the customer’s. I mean, you don’t go to a grocery store, pay for your groceries, and then pay the cashier for cashing you out, do you? That’s their JOB. Someone is paying them to be there, hence why they’re there. How audacious is it for a restaurant to expect you to pay for food and then also pay for customer service?

If my bill is $50, and I give a 20% tip my bill is now $60. Couldn’t they have just added the $10 somewhere else in my bill..for example, make the chicken fingers I ate $2 higher, add $1 to the burger, whatever….then pay the servers the federal minimum wage, and not have their night totally ruined if they get people who aren’t tipping enough for them to live on?

I DO NOT think that from the minute I sit down at a table in a restaurant or on a stool at the bar, I should be AUTOMATICALLY expected to leave a generous tip. There are many factors that come into play when figuring out how much money to leave as a tip:

1. The service itself. Was my server friendly, approached me in a timely manner, and was knowledgeable about what was on the menu or what I was asking for? Or was he/she rude, didn’t really seem to listen, no personality, and I had been sitting for 15 minutes before you even approached me?

2. How long did it take for my food or drink to be served to me? If I order a beer while I am sitting at the bar, I wouldn’t expect it to take more than a minute or two to be brought to me. Of course there are exceptions and sometimes people forget or they get caught up in something else right away, but generally it shouldn’t take very long.

3. The FOOD. Now I know I may hear some people say “the server doesn’t work in the kitchen, they should not be punished for bad food”. Well I do not speak with the people who actually cook my food, I speak to the server. If I say I want a baked potato and I get fries, or I want my steak rare and it comes back medium well, of course I am going to say something. And we have all heard the “rumors” (which I am positive are sometimes based in fact) that if you complain about your food and send it back, you are taking your life into your own hands. I really hate it when you are out with 3 or 4 people, and on of the peoples food doesn’t come with the rest of the food. So that person has to sit there and say ‘It’s ok” while everyone else eats, or nobody eats until that persons food comes, and now we all have cold food.

4. How did my server LOOK. I know this may sound REALLY shallow, but deep down we all know it is the truth. Looks do matter. Do you want someone with food all over their clothes, looks dirty and smells bad bringing you your food? old beer Now I am sure the woman to my right is a really nice person and she is obviously hard working…but…

hooters These women also can carry beer! And I am sure that they are all just “working there way through college”, so I feel that i should help with their college expenses and tip them a little better 😉  Plus…and I am sure a lot of guys actually believe this..(pic below)

cover pic Basically what I am saying is that I don’t and shouldn’t be obligated or forced to give a good tip. I have received service that is out of this world phenomenal, and it was usually the bartender/server who kept me coming back, not the prices or even the quality of the food.  I have also received service that ensured I would never go back to that establishment again, no matter what.

Bottom line is this: If you treat me well and are nice to me, I will treat you the same. Just like in the “real world”. If you treat me like crap and act like you don’t care if I am there or not,  and you still expect a generous tip…. you must be out of your mind!ugly aitressAs always, thanks for taking the time out of your day to stop by our blog, and please take a minute to respond to the poll below. I am interested in seeing what/why people tip….and “ya’ll come back now, ya hear!”

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SOCCER is not a sport!…Might be the worst game ever invented

scoreboardSoccer is not a sport. It is a GAME they play in third world countries because they can’t afford any other equipment. Then they have the balls to call it “futbol”? Did anyone happen to catch that ‘thriller”between USA and Mexcico? 0-0 after 3 hours…BORING. AMERICAN Football is the greatest SPORT ever invented, and it is played by men in the United States. It is obviously… Continue reading

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Segregation: If done right, could it work?

ImageSegregation…it is a word that conjures up horrible images of how our country was and has been since Christopher Columbus took a wrong turn and ended up here…Jim Crow laws and Rosa Parks…Sadly, there are a whole generation of kids and adults who know nothing about the history of the civil rights movement or how there were . Continue reading

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Do’s and Don’ts for Valentines Day….(Valentines Day 101 for guys)


Do’s and Don’ts for Valentines Day….(Valentines Day 101 for guys).Well today is the day that can set the tone for the rest of 2013 gentlemen..we dread it every year, it strikes fear in even the bravest of souls. February 14th..otherwise known as “Don’t screw this day up guys, or you will pay”…

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cucumber-carrot1 Over the past few years, I have seen women (and a couple of men) do some things with vegetables that were never seen or even thought of in my house when I was growing up! We didn’t have cable TV, so I didn’t have access to

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The evolution of VIDEO GAMES (I prefer the “olden days” when you had a joystick and one button)….check out and listen to the “Pac Man Fever” song while you are here…

I was a video game ADDICT when I was a kid. It all started out with the original Atari 2600, released in 1977. You hook it up to the back of your TV, and you spend the rest of the afternoon playing games like Combat and Space Invaders. It was all real easy, you had a joystick and ONE button to press..

.that was all you had to do. You didn’t have 6 different buttons and thousands of different options to choose from. Granted, the graphics weren’t quite as good as they are in today’s games, but game play was much easier…. Continue reading

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Always wanting the newer or the perceived better….

new I have been doing a lot of thinking lately. I see people who are constantly “wanting”...I need the new “ipod” or “I need to upgrade my iphone” or “I need those new  $200 sneakers, mine have a scuff mark on them”. When asked why these things are needed, the answer is because they are “newer” or “better”…So let me get this right.. a week ago what you had was the best thing in the world, but now that you saw a commercial or a friend or co-worker got something new, all of a sudden what you have now isn’t any good anymore?

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